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William avatar

My wife is at Stage 6 Alzheimers & I am going to have to move her to memory care. How do I tell her & what can I do minimize the trauma.

Susan avatar

Hi William

Music is always a good idea because it taps into so many parts of the brain make sure to address each person by name and ask them to sing you may have to sing right into their ear but they probably will respond here are some ideas on golden Carers

https://www.goldencarers.com/how-to-plan-music-activities-for-dementia-care/3192/

Another good idea is sensory stimulation you can have people sit together in looks like a group but you do things with each person individually you can also put their favorite activity in front of them such as some thing to color some thing to sort some activities of daily living some work chores

Here are some ideas on on the golden Carers

https://www.goldencarers.com/sensory-stimulation-for-dementia-care/4184/

Susan avatar

Hi William

The move may be upsetting to your wife at first

But she will forget why she is moving no matter how many times you tell her

Try to bring some familiar things from home to the new place and decorate her room similar to her room at home

The staff at the home will help her transition to her new living arrangement

Hopefully she can meet some people who are very friendly and coax her to enjoy activities

She may want you to visit but she may tell you she wants to go home so you may need to stay away for a while

Every person is different

Give her some time to adjust

Susan avatar

Here are some more ideas

Per haps you And the staff can make one of these boxes for your wife

Bring pictures every time you visit

Do not ask do you remember but say tell me about

If she cannot you tell her about the picture

If she really presses you I’m wanting to go home tell her that the doctor said she has to stay there for a little while

Keep telling her that as long as she will accept it and tell her that she is safe where she is temporarily

Make sure you are upbeat and smiling even if you’re hurting inside

Also Join and a caregiver support

group

This will make you feel better and they may have some good ideas for you

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